For the Workplace
Self-Control
Managing my impulses to make steady progress toward my goals
Self-control supports a workplace where thoughtful choices guide behavior.
When individuals manage impulses and emotions, conflict decreases and productivity increases. Self-control helps create a calm, steady environment for effective work.
Essay
The Self-Control Pause
by Jill Tomey
You have probably witnessed a scene at work where two colleagues disagree, and the conversation escalates as the volume gets louder, each one trying to outshout the other. This is a clear example of when ‘The Pause’ could have been helpful. Our class, ‘How To Hold Difficult Conversations,’ teaches this skill, which simply is pausing before replying when you are accused, yelled at, or verbally attacked. The pause lets you gather your character, decline the invitation to the fight, and respond calmly. You can still answer an accusation, defend yourself, or ask for more details but in a respectful and controlled tone. You are able to respond instead of react.
Often, difficult conversations become emotionally charged. Without self-control, these conversations can easily get sidetracked and fail to achieve their intended outcome. If one party can maintain self-control when the other is not, it can encourage the argumentative person to self-regulate, increasing the chances of a successful conversation. Have you ever tried to argue with someone who wouldn’t argue back? It’s annoying but the difference in their tone helps you to recognize the anger in your tone and is a clue to engage your own self-control.
How can you remember to use the Self-Control Pause?
Affirmations for the Workplace
I direct my energy toward the responsibilities, decisions, and behaviors that are within my influence.
I pause, reflect, and respond thoughtfully rather than reacting impulsively.
I set healthy professional boundaries and step back from situations that hinder my effectiveness or well‑being.
I stay grounded in reality, manage expectations, and work steadily toward what I can earn.
I maintain composure and professionalism, even during high‑pressure or emotionally charged moments.
Self-Control Resource Library
The Links below will take you to Resources you can use in the workplace to encourage the Character Quality of Self-Control.
Self-Control Quotes
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