For the Family
Self-Control
Managing my impulses to make steady progress toward my goals
Self-control helps families manage emotions and choices wisely.
When we pause before reacting, we create a calmer, more respectful environment. Self-control supports healthier communication and stronger relationships.
Essay
Less is More
by Mary Andres Russell
Is there an area of your life in which you need to exercise self-control? Is it spending? Too much food or drink? Or in controlling your emotions?
Self-control is not about rigid self-punishment. It’s about creating a life that aligns with our values and aspirations. By staying in control, we build trust in ourselves and our ability to navigate life’s complexities.
A school guidance counselor once told a story about how he demonstrates the need for Self-Control. When we indulge in anger or criticism, it is like taking a clean sheet of paper and crumpling it into a wad of trash. Later in regret we may try to repair the relationship, just as we may try to straighten out that sheet of paper. But try as we might, the folds and creases remain. And just as that piece of paper is never quite the same, that relationship may also suffer. It can take months or even years to repair the damage of one out-of-control argument.
This month, use Self-Control to strengthen your resolve and your relationships. That means simplifying — less is more: less over-indulging, more setting small, achievable goals and following through on commitments; less busyness, more aligning our actions with our values and aspirations; less allowing our emotions to rule the day, more taking a step back, a deep breath, and exercising our self-control.
Affirmations for the Family
I focus on things I can control.
I can wait, breathe, and make a smart choice.
I walk away from things that aren’t good for me.
I understand that wanting something doesn’t mean I get it.
I can stay calm and in control, even when I feel excited or upset.
Self-Control Resource Library
The Links below will take you to Resources you can use with your family to encourage the Character Quality of Self-Control.
Self-Control Quotes
Looking for reminders that Self-Control makes a difference? Explore the full collection of Self-Control Quotes and find the perfect line to share, post, or spark a conversation.
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