Resilience (vs. Hopelessness)
Recovering from Adversity
To practice Resilience I will:
- Learn from my mistakes and then let them go.
- Not compare my situation to others.
- Not let a failure in one area affect my attitude in other areas.
- Ask for help when I need it.
- Look for reasons to have hope.
When you think of resilience you automatically associate it to the adversity creating the need for resilience. We tend to think of resilient people as those who are unaffected by the challenges of life, who take a setback with a smile and laugh in the face of their obstacles. But this is not resilience. Resilience is facing a challenge and not backing down or giving up. It’s working to recover and in many cases you can end up learning a lesson or increasing your strength and courage. Life changes, even when they are positive such as marriage, becoming a parent or a retiree, can use a dose of Resilience to help in adapting. You’ve probably heard the story about a man who tried to help a butterfly out of its cocoon by slitting the cocoon open. The butterfly that emerged had small, unformed wings, and died soon after. It needed the struggle out of the cocoon to force the fluid into its wings to stretch and open them so that the butterfly could fly. By trying to shortcut the process, the man had instead doomed the creature.
This month, use adversity to strengthen your wings.
“And thus, like the wounded oyster, he mends his shell with pearl.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not be bent out of shape.”