Deference

Deference
(vs. Rudeness)

Limiting my freedom so I do not offend the tastes of those around me

To practice Deference I will:

Deference brings to mind the waiter rule. 'A person, who is nice to you but rude to the waiter, or to others, is not a nice person.' This was penned by Raytheon CEO Bill Swanson in a booklet of 33 short leadership rules he called Swanson's Unwritten Rules of Management. Many rude people can justify their behavior because they aren't doing anything 'wrong' but Deference challenges us to do more 'right'. We may have every right to say offensive things but it doesn't mean it is the right thing to do. The character quality of Deference knocks the Me Generation down a notch or two. Where the Me Generation lives by entitlement, Deference requires the giving up of pleasures if it offends others.

This month, practice Deference by being cognizant of those around us and taking responsibility for living together in harmony.

"A person's a person, no matter how small." - Dr. Seuss, Horton Hears a Who

"Every action in company ought to be with some sign" - George Washington

Resources

In My School

Educator Bulletin on Deference


The Character Council also offers faith-based resources for use in religious schools, church groups and families.


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