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We devote several pages in this branch to explain some of our philosophies about character. The Build Character section of our web site provides insight into our core belief that through encouragement and positive reinforcement, these character qualities will help to strengthen and grow the fabric of ourselves, our families and our community.

It is also where we feature information on the Character Quality of the Month (below). In addition to practicing and building oneself, there are many ways for businesses, schools, faith organizations and local government to encourage and feature each Character Quality of the Month.
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Deference

Character Quality of the Month
February 2012

Deference
(vs. Rudeness)



Limiting my freedom so I do not offend the tastes of those around me.


Deference brings to mind the waiter rule. “A person, who is nice to you but rude to the waiter, or to others, is not a nice person.” This was penned by Raytheon CEO Bill Swanson in a booklet of 33 short leadership rules he called Swanson"s Unwritten Rules of Management. Many rude people can justify their behavior because they are not doing anything “wrong” but Deference challenges us to do more “right”. We may have every right to say offensive things but it does not mean it is the right thing to do.

This month, practice Deference by being cognizant of those around us and taking responsibility for living together in harmony.

To practice Deference, -- I will…

  • Notice those around me.
  • Respect the feelings of others.
  • Not use offensive language.
  • Not play loud music in public.
  • Be careful how I dress.

Rudeness is a weak man"s imitation of strength. ~Eric Hoffer


“The secret, Joey, is to know you're somebody without thinking you're somebody." ~Dennis the Menace


FAITH MATERIALS: Please note that writings on Deference with a faith perspective are available on our website at Faith Qualities/Deference.



Character qualities are courtesy of Character First!


The Character Qualities of the Month are adapted from the book Achieving True Success, published by the International Association of Character Cities.
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